People want to be different and  they want to be special. Let’s start by asking why.

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Why does one want to be different? Is it a must to put up a mask just to fit in a clique?

Do you realize that, sometimes, just being ourselves is one of our biggest fears in life? We’re afraid of not being accepted and tend to act to please others, instead of ourselves. If God created us the way we are, why try to be someone we’re not? Can anyone explain this? I believe most of us have experienced this before.

I remember my mum telling me that if I don’t get a high paying job, I will not be accepted in society. When I asked her why, she answered in a very off-hand manner saying, “Don’t ask so much because the world is just like this, and all we can do is follow the flow.” I listened to her.

As I grew older, I came to realise that what she said was not true. However, I often see this happening among my friends. I notice how they act differently to different people. To tell the truth, I’ve never questioned their behavior (or rather, I haven’t had the guts to do so). Sometimes I ask myself whether I behave in the same manner. If yes, why? Will I be able to change myself? And if I do, can I help change others as well? Right now I’m still wondering if it’s achievable. Hopefully time will tell.

Frankly speaking, I do not want to live in a world where everyone puts up a mask. However I do understand that, in some circumstances, such as attending someone’s birthday party whom I don’t know very well, it’s hard to just be ourselves. Again I pose the question, is it achievable for everyone not to put up a mask in society?

I once read this from somewhere:


“Worry about your character, not your reputation; because your character is who you are, and your reputation is what people think you are.”

Do you agree? Is it for the sake of reputation that society behaves like this? The question is for you to answer.

Being someone else does not make you special, being yourself makes you special.

Cheryl is an 18 year old who is currently studying law. Her passion is to create awareness among her peers and her greatest satisfaction is when someone actually responds. Her aim is to ensure that people...

One reply on “Being yourself, that makes you special”

  1. As long as you're interacting with people, you're wearing masks. Your identity is constantly being redefined by your interactions with other actors.
    I'm pretty sure you're very comfortable with your parents, just as you are comfortable around your friends. But you don't act the same way with the two groups. Because what is "You" is different depending on who you're with.

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