The Abominable Bridegrooms

If it is the decay of morality one is ultimately wary of, then I think it is necessary for one to consider this: compassion IS the basis of morality. Anyone can criticise, spew fire, brimstone and condemnation but for society to truly progress, acceptance and tolerance is key.

The controversial Ou Yang

Dear God no! NO!

Can you imagine the horror of this? If you haven’t heard, the ‘Pastor’ Au Yong has announced his intentions of marrying, MARRYING — the cheek of them to defile this holy institution merely to justify their profane act of depravity — his partner Phineas Newborn III, 47, a Broadway musical producer. While some people are more than happy to congratulate the happy couple, more than a few have stepped out against this abomination, and rightly so! Why on earth would a man declare his love for another man and call that a “marriage” when we know that doing so will set off a whole chain of social ills that will eventually wreck the fabric of our society?

Take for instance the ramifications of such an institution on the sanctity of conventional marriage. By God, if the good pastor were allowed to marry his partner, a precedent allowing this sort of union will be set, and what would that do for all other marriages? I’m warning you, our fathers will be rushing to divorce out mothers for the very next man they see on the street. Divorce rates will skyrocket, and you know we simply cannot have so many immoral divorcees wandering the streets to test and corrupt other marriages. Gay marriage, I blame you.

In a strongly-worded comment by the wise and much celebrated column written by one Awang Selamat, he stressed that Malaysian society’s value system based on religious tolerance could not be compromised:

“Malaysian gay pastor Ou Yang Wen Feng’s attempt to break this value system to marry the same gender in this country has to be opposed. Day by day we see various attempts to destroy our value system and Pastor Ou is doing it in the open.”

Damn right it is! If we allow our society to allow man to marry man in the name of liberalism, would it not open the floodgates for requests to legitimise other acts of depravity? Acts including the sexual abuse of minors by people in positions of trust, underaged marriage and even — I can’t bear to say this but I must — incest? Gay marriage, I blame you.

And don’t even get me started on what this marriage is going to do to the traditional institution of family. A family must have a Father, a Mother and their children. That is the rule. With Man marrying Man, how can there possibly be enough men to go around for woman-kind to share? Believe you me, if this depravity is allowed to proceed, there will be a catastrophic rise in the number of single parent families, and we all know families like these do nothing more than breed juvenile delinquents. Gay marriage, I blame you.

In a world where one man is allowed to marry another out of love, what hope is there for us but the sure and irreversible slide of humanity into doom and destruction? We’ve read about Sodom and Gomorrah. We’ve read of the destruction of great ancient civilisations as divine retribution for their pederasty and general morally corrupt decadence. I will know who to blame the next time Rapture comes around. Gay marriage, again I blame you.

Sarcastic disdain aside, I’ve raised only one question in response to this issue many a time before and I’ll raise it again: Is acceptance really such a childish concept? When did we stop celebrating our differences and begin qualifying them instead?

So yes, even though we have much bigger fish to fry (take your pick: we’ve got the mud-coloured fish of racism, the green fish of corrupted politics, the yellow fish of electoral reforms… to name but a few swimming in local waters these days), let’s focus on frying this rainbow-hued fish of tolerance if only to prove the already obvious point that we simply do not know where our priorities lie.

If it is the decay of morality one is ultimately wary of, then I think it is necessary for one to consider this: Compassion is the basis of morality. Anyone can criticise, spew fire, brimstone and condemnation but for society to truly progress, acceptance and tolerance is key.

At the end of it all, accepting; if not championing, marriage equality will simply mean that two people — never mind their gender and what they do in the privacy of their own bedrooms — get to legitimise their love for each other and celebrate their relationship with the person of their choice. And if you do not agree with the idea of gay marriage, simply don’t marry a gay person. What could possibly be harder than that?

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Otherwise sedentary to the point of sponge in most matters, Leroy Luar has lofty aspirations of being a writer of creative fiction. Whilst waiting for that the happen, he spends his days PR-ing clients for a PR firm he works for and his nights writing and re-writing the first line of his next sure-fire literary hit. He occasionally writes about social matters when sufficiently irritated enough to do so but usually prefers to take a back seat and read pieces by other talented and much more disciplined social commentators.

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14 Responses to The Abominable Bridegrooms

  1. Madhatter

    God destroy mankind in many many ways, we all sinners and we never learn. Dont blame on the gays for that. Abortion is a sin, shall we also blame those men who make women pregnant yet do not want to be responsible and let their women to abort? How about humans that waste food, water etc when almost half of the world population living in poverty and hunger? We should be worry our survival of our next generation then to worry about who love who, who wants marry who. Be thankful to gays that the world population does not hit 80 Billion by now.

  2. Kedahan

    ….

    I am born gay.

    I grow up in my teenage years thinking I am the only gay person in Malaysia.

    Nobody "approached" me nor did I "approached" any heterosexual guys.

  3. farcry

    I have friends who were originally straight and became 'bi' then slowly became gay, because of continuous approaches by gays. I don't accept nor reject this, but what I want to say is that gays are mostly not born this way (from what I observe), but influenced by many different factors in life. By legalizing gay marriage, the "conversion" rate will go up and up. I have seen quite a few cases but I don't know if these are just some special ones?

    • Tea at Midnight

      By your logic then, a gay person should also be able to "convert back" to being straight. And seeing as being gay causes so much suffering due to discrimination, such that many would choose suicide, there should be a HUGE "conversion rate" from gay to 100% straight at the moment.

      ……now why is this not happening yet?

  4. josephsfng

    It's a sin to even use the word 'pastor' in front of his name! It smears the name of good pastors by itself. He should be packed and deported to his place of marriage in US. If he enters quietly and goes of quietly then we should not deport him. Otherwise he should be kicked out if there is a fanfare when he enters the country. Period.

  5. Sage

    Love the sinner but hate the sin. As much as I don't want to judge our friends – but God really meant business when He torched down the entire city of Sodom and Gomorrah with sulfur. My only concern about the legalization is the consequence of gradually normalizing homosexuality as something natural (because it is not). It goes beyond rights of an individual – because in a bigger picture, we are facing the possibility transforming the societal construct that we know today, into something deconstructed beyond our control (one that we might only come to realize in the hindsight).

    • Kedahan

      There is no God.

    • Marc RP

      And wtf exactly is the 'societal construct' that we should not allow to go 'beyond our control'? A society living by your personal belief system?

    • Tea at Midnight

      You seem to have forgotten that as the men of Sodom converged on Lot's house to gang-bang the two male angels, he offered them his virgin daughters instead.

      Would you have been prepared to follow in his virtuous example?

  6. NSJ

    Great article.

    I feel like some background information of the event is necessary in order for readers to understand the context of this marriage. The couple won't be getting married IN Malaysia, they will be wedded in New York where same-sex marriages was recently declared legal.

    Whereas I'm a supporter of gay rights (of which include their rights to get married), I understand why this piece of news would instigate negative responses from (some) Malaysians. My first reaction would be to condemn those who oppose the union between two people in love, but alas, I shall restrain myself from doing so and respect that this just isn't the norm in Malaysia.

    What I do oppose however is the government trying to 'stop' this marriage (if we were to believe every word of the Utusan) and preventing the couple from holding a reception back home. What draws the line between the 'private' and 'public'? The government has no rights to invade the personal lives of Malaysians, let alone those who are making a living abroad. Doesn't that constitute a violation of a person's freedom? Then again, this might just be another strategy to demonize Christianity and perpetuate racial politics.

  7. malaysian

    Let who is without sin cast the first stone

  8. Rasydan

    I do not support gay marriage in this country nor will I allow it openly.

  9. Chris

    As Archchancellor Ridcully remarks: "A lot of that sort of thing about, apparently. People make such a fuss. Anyway, in my opinion there's not enough love in the world."