“Love means never having to say you’re sorry”
- Love Story, 1970
Most of you may not have seen or heard about this great movie. This is probably because you were not even born or you were still a toddler then.
There are different expressions of love, but I will discuss the kind of love between opposite sexes – one which could possibly bloom and mature into a lasting relationship.
Is there such a thing as ‘love at first sight’? I would only believe it if the saying comes from women rather than men. Why? Simply because I am a man and I know it cannot be right.
Love cannot be put in the forefront when two opposite sexes meet, be it for the first time or more than once. It should be an ‘attraction’. Sometimes, it can be called infatuation when one is in search for a partner.
It is dangerous when love ignites when one is attracted to another’s beauty rather than their character and personality. Very seldom will love last if beauty is the top priority in a relationship. If one believes in love at first sight, one will never stop looking. True love can only be developed when a couple can appreciate each other’s character and personality.
I have seen many couples, as young as 16, falling in love but most of them did not last for more than a year. Many were influenced by the love stories in TV drama series from Taiwan and Hong Kong.
My view on love affairs today is that by rushing into it, people will only get hurt. Therefore, they start hunting for a replacement to fill the void.
Love is a dangerous game to play with, as it can be very hurtful. If you are not ready for it don’t even start or force it. Love should come naturally, when the time is right.
On a brighter note, there are happily married couples that last not from love, but mutual acceptance of one another – that they can live and stay together.
Sorry folks, this is not to discourage you from finding or falling in love. This is just my thought after looking at friends and relatives that are battling their love affairs. Some make it through while others end up dismayed.