It must get better

It Gets Better in Malaysia” is project featuring a series of short videos that aims to give hope to teenagers growing up as lesbian, gay, bisexual, and/or transgender in Malaysia – that even though things can be rough during the teenage years, it can get better. However, a slew of threats and hate-speech followed Azwan Ismail’s video. The project’s organiser, Seksualiti Merdeka has since released a statement. Here, LoyarBurokker Lim Ka Ea shares her thoughts on this kerfuffle.

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I find this campaign very human. It’s not just about promoting or glorifying the rights of lesbian, bisexual, gay and transgendered persons. It’s about treating and respecting them as human beings who don’t deserve to be bullied and certainly don’t deserve to suffer in silence.


I am heterosexual and if I have had more than one sexual relationship, I’d be called a shameless slut.

If I were a Muslim, heterosexual and have pre-marital sex with my long-term boyfriend, I’d be arrested, persecuted and labelled a sinful and bad Muslim.

If I am homosexual, I’d be blamed for spreading HIV/AIDS.

If I were Muslim and homosexual, I might as well be dead because this would be what many of my Muslim brothers and sisters would want me to be – non-existent.

The point I’m trying to make is homosexuals are not alone when it comes to receiving unwanted, cruel and malicious remarks and punishments, but they do bear the worst of it, especially if they’re Muslims.

If you’re part of the activist circle in Kuala Lumpur or know someone who is part of the circle, you’ll know the “Seksualiti Merdeka movement” led by several brave and no doubt amazing individuals. These individuals are brave because they confront and embrace their sexuality instead of hiding behind a facade. They’re amazing because they do something about defending and promoting their rights to alternative sexual lifestyles, rather than bitch within their own circle of like-minded friends and wait for society to accept them for who they are.

One recent project that has attracted a lot of attention is the “It gets better in Malaysia” videos. These series of short videos feature several individuals who talk about their experiences as homosexuals in Malaysia. This is not an original initiative as it is very much inspired by a similar campaign in the United States aimed at combating gay teenage suicide as a result of bullying in schools.

The message is simple. It tries to tell gay teenagers that their lives will get better eventually and hence they should not give up on life.

I find this campaign very human. It’s not just about promoting or glorifying the rights of lesbian, bisexual, gay and transgendered persons. It’s about treating and respecting them as human beings who don’t deserve to be bullied and certainly don’t deserve to suffer in silence. When children take their own lives simply because they can no longer tolerate the torture they have to endure in school and are unable to find the worth in themselves to continue living, something is fundamentally wrong. It is no longer about LBGT rights. It’s about human rights.

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It must get better

When Azwan Ismail appeared in one of the videos recently, he was condemned by many people. Some even called for his death. It makes me feel sick and it makes me angry to hear this. It also makes me ask why. Why do we behave as if we have the moral right to pass judgment on someone else who is different from ourselves?

The truth of the matter is, we constantly hide behind our religions so that we can continue to be lazy thinkers and we try to delude ourselves as a society, that sex is taboo so that we don’t have to deal with any problems related to it. We’re told that sex should be something best kept private, which I can agree with. However, I don’t think we should stop discussing sex or try to censure ourselves by pretending to be an asexual society when we’re not. A Catholic priest will be able to tell you this.

At the end of the day, those who condemn homosexuality do not realise what huge fools and bigots they make of themselves. They’re foolish because they continue to think that if they don’t talk, see or hear about it, then surely it doesn’t exist. (Thank God for great scientists and philosophers who don’t subscribe to such ludicrous theories.) They’re bigots because they believe in casting the first stone even though they are far from unblemished themselves. It’s as if the more stones they throw, the fewer stones will be left for their own sins.

Being Malaysian is tough. Well, surely not as tough as an Afghan, Iraqi, Sudanese or Somalian, I hear you say. In a way you’re right but at least these countries don’t try to fool you into believing that they’re so close to being a developed nation, founded on the principles of democracy and respect for human rights. It is tough being a part of a hypocritical nation and anyone who asks me to balik China, you’ve proven my point.

Afghanistan was once ruled by the Talibans, Muslim hardliners who implemented syariah and hudud laws in the country. These Talibans are also known for their sexual activities with young Afghan boys. They won’t talk about this but they will tell you that they’re defenders of Islam. Azwan Ismail did nothing of that sort and if anything, he did the opposite. He is honest, as opposed to those who hide behind their masks. I am sure all homosexuals want to be honest about themselves. Something which all parents should be teaching their children, instead of forcing them to be liars.

I  sincerely believe our country will be better if we start being more honest and less hypocritical. I also believe that this country will be better if we’re governed by leaders who are more honest and less hypocritical. We have come to a juncture where things must get better for all of us.

I’ll vote for the next politician who starts a campaign on this.

Ka Ea works as a full-time staff with the Bar Council Secretariat. During her free time, she writes for The Malaysian Insider and LoyarBurok.

LB: First published in The Malaysian Insider on 25 December 2010.

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Ka Ea used to be a globe trotter. She has lived in Timor Leste and Afghanistan while working as a civic education and human rights officers for the United Nations. She then tried to be a full time housewife in Ethiopia and Cambodia but failed miserably. These days, Ka Ea spends most of her time at the Pusat Rakyat LoyarBurok, Ananda Bhavan and Hulu Langat. When she's not there, she can be found lying on the couch at home with two of her best friends watching So You Think You Can Dance. Among the trio, only one can really dance.

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12 Responses to It must get better

  1. Eric

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    Okay this exchange between ' AgreeToDisagree' and the rest of the world is the second funniest piece I encountered after this:

    http://www.onionsportsnetwork.com/video/dome-extr

  2. Ali Davidson

    Cybertrooper? Please! I've got better things to do in life.

    You my friend need to stop bursting out horseshit on blogs and learn to keep on topic.

    And I am not the first one to be telling you this, look across the comments section of many of the other posts, you have been told multiple times by others to refrain from talking cock and keep to the topic but time and time again you go on a very annoying tirade of garbage.

    You my friend is SPAM for certain!

  3. AgreeToDisagree

    @Ali Davidson is a cybertrooper for certain. With numerology to boot. How convenient for everyone to see what you're all about. I hope your proxy server is unfriendly enough to people like you to make a trace to find out who you are working for. They probably already did cos EVERYBODY'S WATCHING.

  4. I think you're trying to hide facts about such devices for your 'political masters' by replying like that, so they can have a tremendous advantage over everyone, like the unethical cowards they and you are.

    Use your own brains, and if you are not good enough, just take your role as the inferior man as nature intended. Tech augmentation is only for those inadequate CHEATS in the 'Examination of Life'.

    For other readers, the below 3 links will confirm more of what I said.

    http://www.facebook.com/topic.php?uid=31851551532

    http://www.facebook.com/topic.php?uid=31851551532

    http://www.rense.com/political/weapons/nsa.html

    http://rense.com/general92/elcs.htm

    Don't talk about mothers like that, you confirm a hatred for your own mother or a disrespect for yourself. Self hating people with a guilty conscience or who have sold their souls for money or rely on technology to get the better of others often comment in this manner. It is your own mother you have shamed this day and confirmed that your insignificance and innate sickness.

  5. Ali Davidson

    You are correct, the Jewish Lobby funded by the Freemasons of Hogwarts expressly instructed me to show the world how you, AgreetoDisagree is a byproduct of the Biopolis National Neuroscience Institute in Singapore run by Lee Kuan Yew’s daughter Lee Wei Ling and funded by pop corn loving Illuminati.

    Where you, as you have since undergone memory erasure, was made to undergo 9 hours of sodomy by 19 AIDS infected Somalian Pirates. From the records I have, it seems you curiously loved it.

    Your father on the other hand had his throat shoved with a Hyena’s penis. He too had to undergo memory erasure at precisely 284kHz as he would cum in his pants if the Hertz went any lower or higher, there was a lot of trial and error with your father.

    Your mission, was to fill cyberspace with Hatred. Hatred for joy, peace, love and beauty. You must help fill cyberspace with paranoia, delusions, fear and insecurity all in a bid incite hatred within the population.

    You AgreetoDisagree, are a sick sick person. You perverted child molester you. Please take your dick out of that monkey’s anus and stop fingering your granma. You dirty wicked bestial necrophiliac!

  6. Ali Davidson

    "It could be that 90% of current bisexuals or homosexuals are products of manipulative social-stalking programmes, neurolinguistic intent and sub-aural or EMF frequency grooming."

    HAHAHAHAH…..

    Oh wait, wait… this one is good:

    "Citizens of Malaysia, please note that DAP is employing technology supplied from Singapore’s PAP, (Biopolis National Neuroscience Institute in Singapore run by Lee Kuan Yew’s daughter Lee Wei Ling, likely sourced from USA and Zionist APCO) to be employed via 3G and 4G telecomminications towers, the GWEN towers at Nautilus Bay Penang, a new form of electronic emitter that emits *Subliminal Sub-aural Frequencies*."

    LOL… get a load of this guy….LOL…

    Wait, wait…not done yet, this one still takes the cake:

    "So when did the LGBT phenomenon come about? As a means for population control used in conjunction with antiquated or religious laws for political assassination cases as in Anwar’s Sodomy trial or even Crown Prince of Qatar (presumably to create scandal and weaken the Middle Eastern monarchies so that ‘white’ monarchs reign supreme) or even destruction of the Catholic Church by CREATING paedophile personalities to benefit PROTESTANT Churches or even Satanists, which NWO/Illuminati/Federal Reserve/Zionist Lobby/Freemasonry are party to."

    It's assholes like this who are the real hindrance to any sort of change with this nonsense and horseshit. What a bloody joke!

    You know what I think the problem is with AgreetoDisagree?

    He is being manipulated by Jewish part Meatloaf sellers part Mossad agents to surreptitiously fill cyberspace with enough garbage that the important information gets filtered out by his dogshit.

    And you know how they did it? They secretly used Aliens from the Zeta Lolita Star System to implant a radioactive dildo into AgreetoDisgaree's mother's asshole encoded with sub aural transmitting beta wave, gamma rays and alpha waves that help link violent lesbianic pulses of rage into her nervous system causing her to gather all the women neighbours in the neighbourhood who have gonorrhea after which she encouraged them to put on a strap on and gang rape AgreetoDisgree till he/she is bleeding from the anus.

    Now, he/she spends all his/her time from a fucking mental asylum following the commands of her/his Jewish masters who are incidentally being sub anally controlled by Palestinian fishmongers from a different dimension hidden between a multiverses of parallel organic membrane and faeces, all tucked comfortably within the scrotum of an intergalactic Indian beggar named Muthumani Thamby Pillay.

  7. Lol Ka Ea. And belated HNY. How have you been lately? I'd suspect you could be worth more than the lot of us on this page, though the Lims I mention are astronomical and 3rd world minded about sequestration of wealth to boot.

    Wanna reconsider running for candidacy? Ambivalance and reticence is a mark of intelligence, but to glorify or be lost in it's passivity it is not very helpful to your fellow citizens and a waste of your very being. If enough people try, we could succeed at anything, including removing the threat to mental autonomy.

    I bet Ka Ea's current Assemblyman or MP is quaking in his or her boots even as we speak. Just being able to do those asset declarations voluntarily and you'll be Malaysia's favourite MP. Just don't sell out principles by then and count on popularity as a buffer as a certain Mamak did!

    Independent Candidacy not something illegal and your right as a citizen, please reconsider Ka Ea, heck just take it as a personal challenge, you'll surely attract volunteers and wide support immediately (I'll be the supporter that constantly questions your actions so you'll know who I am if you still don't, but I guess you and half of those 'in the know' already do . . . )!

    @Ali and @Rewarp

    Yawn? This comment is serious stuff and way ahead of you guys. Unless you are about more disinfo to make it seem like what I mention does not exist. The sheeple you would rudely try to make everyone into would prefer that, but the rest of us with a brain could understand how important this comment is. It's a sick world with sick tech, sick society without any fairplay or privacy.

    Expositions and criminalisation please! Free the prisoners of conscience! Mental prison and slavery is no different from physical versions! Whats so Al-Qaeda about that huh? Ka Ea, any advise on how to go about freeing everyone? Your familiarity with human rights stuff will be a critical factor in making issues in the earlier post something historical. Maybe alongside the Home Minister, though you must also remember that it is APARTHEID we fight after all.

  8. Ali Davidson

    Rewarp,

    Don't bother AgreetoDisagree. He's a terrorist linked with Al-Qaeda.

  9. AgreeToDisagree appears to be a lunatic attempting to hijack the discussion for his/her own personal agenda and does not deserve further comment.

    That said, the GLBT movement by Seksualiti Merdeka will inspire activism-minded individuals in Malaysia, no matter the nature of the movement. In fact, their actions have inspired me to try to organise like-minded individuals for a secular meet-up.

    I would say to the GLBT community that they are certainly not alone in this civil struggle, but success is conditional upon moving apathetic Malaysians to do more than ignore the issue as a passing fad.

  10. I am a Lim and sadly, I'm not of great wealth. :(

    When I state we need a government that is honest and not hypocritical, I did not refer to Anwar Ibrahim at all but I could see why you could've misunderstood this due to the context of the article.

    I meant the corruption, abuse of power, miscarriage of justice, etc. that has contributed towards denying all Malaysians a first-world political, socio-economic and cultural life.

  11. Ka Ea, any knowledge on this? Or shall we be concerned that you are party to the Malaysian Insider establishment (Shannon Teoh's recent 'subversive' article comes to mind . . . ) and have an ambivalent attitude towards standing up against APARTHEID as well. Honesty is the best policy, conscience makes us human.

    Everyone must know that Anwar's orientation cannot be blamed on Anwar alone as the basis and even impulse that drove him in all previous and Saiful's case does not truly arise from within himself.

    It could be that 90% of current bisexuals or homosexuals are products of manipulative social-stalking programmes, neurolinguistic intent and sub-aural or EMF frequency grooming.

    Do not even accuse Anwar. He in fact has been groomed into this, albeit on an unnoticeable level to be used as a tool of sabotage in case he grew too independent, which he did. This is the dimension of justice and element of consideration that nullifies the entire case, not that LGBT itself should be persecuted either for those naturally occurring cases.

    The legal system and education system has failed to warn or protect us from such manipulations. This is a non-case and any self respecting judge or Minister should know to corroborate such factors as well instead of feign ignorance.

    Human civilisation has fallen to a wretched state today, even religious institutions have used these things to profit off the suspecting citizentry. Be aware of what is happening and those with any ethics would work to expose the technology or methods used against our fellow human beings in this manner.

    http://www.facebook.com/topic.php?uid=31851551532

    http://www.facebook.com/topic.php?uid=31851551532

    http://ongangstalking.blogspot.com/2010/11/deb-du

    With regards to secretly using such electronic methods on Targeted Individuals, DAP especially is the most dangerous of the lot.

    I have circumstancial evidence that Lim Guan Eng and Chow Kon Yeow are directly aware of that any so inclined may try to reveal more so as to ensure the freedom of vote in Penang and Malaysia. This will be investigated upon with the help of outside agencies in due time if viable.

    Citizens of Malaysia, please note that DAP is employing technology supplied from Singapore's PAP, (Biopolis National Neuroscience Institute in Singapore run by Lee Kuan Yew's daughter Lee Wei Ling, likely sourced from USA and Zionist APCO) to be employed via 3G and 4G telecomminications towers, the GWEN towers at Nautilus Bay Penang, a new form of electronic emitter that emits *Subliminal Sub-aural Frequencies*.

    Apart from direct electronic harrassment methods being employed, the GWEN and 700 Hz frequencies will be used AGAINST the Malaysian populace and eventually whole of Malaysia's populace to cement hold on the Rakyat by manipulating voters directly.

    This is PAP's initiative to control Malaysia by and given that electronic implants (or counter-electronic wave frequency based on DNA emissions readings)have already likely been installed in ANY Malaysian VIPs who have been to Singapore for any operation or treatment, please note that the Sultans themselves may already be indirectly manipulated by Lee Kuan Yew via existing implants.

    POSSIBLE EARLY USES

    This technology likely was invented in the early 80s and might have been employed in the Sultan of Pahang's gambling stint at Genting where he lost thousands of acres of land and hundreds of millions in cash (under psychotronic influence of wave technology, possibly in collusion with Lim Goh Tong and Lee Kuan Yew, notice how many Lims are in power or have great wealth?).

    The Twin Towers (also Burj Al Arab and other massive towers world wide) likely host the same technology. To counter the same which is nominally under dr.Mahathir's control, Najib wishes to build his own Warisan Merdeka. All the metal gantries on such towers are likely WAVE or BEAM EMITTERS of some sort.

    CAVEATS AND LIMITS OF NEUROTECH USES

    Although neurotech can be used against individuals to a great degree, obviously harmful sub-aurals like those causing the target to hurt themselves will not be acted on by the public unless already suffering from depression, in which case a suicide could be induced, while pleasurable or perceived pleasurable ones that border on activism and even appear trendy like LGBT are more easily uptaken by bored individuals.

    Note however that since the 700 hz tech has not yet been rolled out and that 4G is not yet here, there is still a good window of opportunity for the people to act against this privacy invasive technology.

    Your brain is like a cell phone receiver and with the completion of the gird, which has just recently being put off in Penang at least due to a commentator's findings, your thoughts can be directly received and used against you.

    That is why 8 billion of FDI left Malaysia last year, industrial secrets will no longer be secret any more, business links will be exposed via this technology and thus GLCs and those related to PAP affiliated DAP, will be using such information to monopolise businesses and enevtually set up a Technological Dictatorship based on Telecom's/GWEN/4G tower.

    SAIFUL AND ANWAR SODOMY CASE

    It is likely that the secret 'technical' info that Lee Kuan Yew has on if Anwar Ibrahim did have sex with Saiful is true and based on this psychotronic or sub-aural telecoms tower technology. It is also true that Anwar Ibrahim and Saiful were likely engaged in homosexual relations but UNDER the influence of neurotech/GWEN/sub-aurals as described above.

    Please google any terms unfamiliar with here and vote for individuals are not involved in this form of Dictatorship.

    As mentioned it is very possible DAP is certainly involved in use of electronic harrassment and other technologies against the populace, in time this will be revealed and the criminal acctions punished.

    DO NOT VOTE DAP, stick to PKR and PAS or other parties.

    APPEAL TO GOVERNMENT

    I hope Ong Tee Keat and Captain Bala will find out more and pen eventually laws against abuse of this technology as well as bring all those who employed the electronic weapons against citizens to justice.

    We have entered a new era of oppression and weaponry, the form of police state can be avoided by not using cellphones or 3G or allowing 700 hz or Wiifi emitters. Anyone with the technical know how and a conscience, please inform and hep the public so further abuses will not occur and that all criminal cases will be brought to book as well.

    Malaysians be warned. Singapore's hand and link via the Biopolis Neuroscience Institute run by Kuan Yew's daughter Lee Wei Ling, in DAP to control Malaysia is becoming suspiciously clear, DO NOT VOTE *DAP* but continue voting PKR and PAS.

    So when did the LGBT phenomenon come about? As a means for population control used in conjunction with antiquated or religious laws for political assassination cases as in Anwar's Sodomy trial or even Crown Prince of Qatar (presumably to create scandal and weaken the Middle Eastern monarchies so that 'white' monarchs reign supreme) or even destruction of the Catholic Church by CREATING paedophile personalities to benefit PROTESTANT Churches or even Satanists, which NWO/Illuminati/Federal Reserve/Zionist Lobby/Freemasonry are party to.

    While the infrastructure appears not much different, the technological levels have reached unbelievable levels, and thus the government needs to be HONEST alongside any with supposedly privileged knowledged that they would keep secret to control and suppress free enterprise and ultimately freedom of society and supress equalityin man or to suppress those deemed too superior genetically and socially.

    At the same time know that there are also ORIGINAL LGBT that should not be persecuted, but that it is possible that 90% of LGBT today are non-genetic but fostered via neurotech. Articles like these while good for genetic LGBT will in fact secure depopulation agendas illegally as well as obfuscate psychotronic weapon uses. There must be accountability and preventive laws as well as counter measures and expostions made to the public as well as apprehension of criminals currently using such technologies to profiteer off ailments or attempts to destroy reputataion and subvert society as well.

    Hopefully the handful of free souls left or those who managed to corroborate evidence and experience as I did will be able to create new and protective laws via landmark cases as I now work upon to ensure the freedom of society and freedom of mankind.

    Anwar and Saiful, Prince Saud Abdulaziz Bin Nasir Al Saud, the Catholic Priests overcome with lust for children, I strongly believe that due to your strong religious and family upbringing and even some of us due to our station, political beliefs and political alignments, or threat of presenting too powerful a competition, or even intelligence, or even failed relationships with people having access to such devices – have been groomed into LGBT or even simulated mental illness specifically to weaken our voice. Let us seek justice and reclaim our reputations.

  12. Noreen

    I really like the way you write.